very interesting and very true...
Is there an imaginary cut off period when offspring become accountable for their own actions?Is there some wonderful moment when parents can become detached spectators in the lives of their children and shrug, 'It's Their life,' and feel nothing?
When I was in my twenties, I stood in a hospital corridor waiting for doctors to put a few stitches in my daughter's head and I asked,'When do you stop worrying?' The nurse said,'When they get out of the accident stage..'.
My Parents just smiled faintlyand said nothing.
When I was in my thirties, I sat on a little chair in a classroom and heard how one of my children talked incessantly, disrupted the class,and was headed for a career making license plates. As if to read my mind, a teacher said,'Don't worry, they all go through this stage and then you can sit back, relax and enjoy them.'
My Parents just smiled faintly and said nothing.
When I was in my forties, I spent a lifetime waiting for the phone to ring, the cars to come home, the front door to open. A friend said,'They're trying to find themselves.'Don't worry! In a few years, they'll be adults.' They'll be off on their own, they'll be out of your hair'
My Parents just smiled faintly And said nothing.
By the time I was 50, I was sick & tired of being vulnerable. I was still worrying over my children,but there was a new wrinkle..Even though they were on their own I continued to anguish over their failures, be tormented by their frustrations and absorbed in their disappointments..and there was nothing I could do about it.
My Parents just smiled faintlyand said nothing.
My friends said that when my kids got married, I could stop worrying and lead my own life.I wanted to believe that,but I was haunted by my parent's warm smiles and their occasional, 'You look pale. Are you all right' ?' Call me the minute you get home'. Are you depressed about something?'
My friends said that when I became a grandparent that I would get to enjoythe happy little voices yelling Grandma! Papa! But now I find that I worry just as much about the little kids as the big ones. How can anyone cope with all this Worry?
Can it be that parents are sentenced to a lifetime of worry? Is concern for one another handed down like a torch to blaze the trail of human frailties and the fears of the unknown? Is concern a curse or is it a virtue that elevates us to the highest form of earthly creation?
Recently, one of my own children became quite irritable, saying to me,'Where were you? I've been calling for 3 days, and no one answered. I was worried.'
I smiled a warm smile.
The torch has been passed.
WORRY
on Tuesday, September 28, 2010Presiden Telpon TKW yang Disiksa di Penang
on Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Monday, 20 September 2010 08:07
"Bapak presiden punya perhatian besar terhadap TKI bermasalah di luar negeri. Ia menelpon langsung seorang pembantu yang disiksa dan diperkosa di Penang untuk memberikan dukungan moril," kata Dubes Da`i Bachtiar usai mengunjungi korban di rumah sakit umum Pulau Penang, Minggu sore.
Presiden juga telah memberikan instruksi kepada KBRI Kuala Lumpur dan KJRI Penang untuk memberikan advokasi maksimal kepada TKW yang bermasalah atau menerima siksaan dari majikan.
Mantan Kapolri Da`i Bachtiar didampingi Konjen Penang Chilman Arisman, minister counsellor konsuler KBRI Amirudin Padjaitan dan minister counsellor Pensosbud Widyarka Ryananta langsung mengunjungi korban di rumah sakit Penang setelah media massa Malaysia memberitakan seorang PRT Indonesia disiksa parah dan diperkosa oleh majikannya.
Menurut Kepala polisi Georgetown, Gan Kong Meng, pembantu rumah (PRT) asal Lampung WF itu telah disiksa dan diperkosa oleh majikannya. WF (26 Thn) mengaku dipukul kepalanya, tangan dan kakinya dengan ikat pinggang (gesper) hingga cedera parah, dadanya disterika, punggungnya disiram air panas, bahkan beberapa kali diperkosa oleh majikan laki-lakinya.
Hasil pemeriksaan rumah sakit menunjukkan adanya luka-luka di kemaluan korban diduga akibat pemerkosaan. Majikan perempuan, kata korban, ikut memukuli jika pembantunya tidak melayani majikan laki-laki yang profesinya sebagai kontraktor pemotongan rumput.
Dalam kondisi luka parah, majikannya yang beretnis Malaysia etnis India membuang WF di Taman Cenderawasih, Nibong Tebal. WF terkapar selama 12 jam di pinggir jalan hingga seorang pejalan kaki menemukan dan membawanya ke kantor polisi.
Kepolisian Penang kemudian mengusut penyiksaan ini selama seminggu. Korban awalnya sempat tidak tahu dimana alamat majikannya karena keluar rumah dengan mata tertutup. Namun berkat kegigihan kepolisian Penang, kedua majikan WF akhirnya dapat ditangkap, Sabtu. Kedua majikan WF kini dalam tahanan kepolisian Penang.
Da`i Bachtiar mengucapkan terima kasih dan memberikan apresiasi tinggi kepada kepala kepolisian Penang yang telah berhasil menangkap kedua majikan WF.
"Saya minta majikan saya dihukum seberat penderitaan saya," kata WF kepada Dubes. Ia khawatir suami dan keluarga di kampung tidak mau menerima dia karena luka yang parah. Hampir seluruh punggungnya terkena luka bakar akibat disiram air panas dan dadanya juga mengalami luka bakar akibat distrika majikan perempuan.
Dubes juga memberikan uang santunan sebesar 2.000 Ringgit (Rp5,5 juta) kepada WF.
(Sumber: www.antaranews.com - 20/09/2010)
Maid forced into sex romp
on Sunday, September 19, 2010
Sunday September 19, 2010
By TAN SIN CHOW
GEORGE TOWN: An Indonesian maid has claimed that she was abused by a couple and forced into a threesome sex romp with them.
Her four-month ordeal ended when the couple felt they had had enough of her and chucked her by a roadside at Taman Cenderawasih in Nibong Tebal last Sunday, with RM30 to fend for herself.
She wandered around aimlessly for 12 hours before a good Samaritan took her to a police station in town the following day.
George Town OCPD Asst Comm Gan Kong Meng said the victim, who looked traumatised and skinny, had burn and scald marks on her back and chest.
Tools of torture: Senior investigating officer ASP Mohd Khalil Khalid (left) showing an iron and a belt believed to have been used on the maid while ACP Gan looks on during the press conference in Penang. She is being treated at the Penang Hospital for multiple bruises.
A medical inspection showed there were tears in her private parts, ACP Gan said at a press conference at the Patani Road police station here yesterday.
The 26-year-old maid from East Java claimed she was raped several times by her employer, a grass-cutting contractor, while his wife would beat her up if she did not give in to her husband’s sexual demands.
ACP Gan said the victim claimed the couple, aged 41 and 36, used a belt to hit her on the head, hands and legs. She also alleged that she was splashed with hot water and had her chest burnt with an iron.
The maid said she started working for the couple in February at their apartment in Jelutong here but the abuses only began in May.
ACP Gan said police arrested the couple at 9.15pm on Friday after five days of trying to locate their apartment as the victim was not familiar with the area.
“We had to take many pictures of apartments in Jelutong to show her. Once the apartment was identified, we asked around the neighbourhood before the suspects were nabbed,” he said.
The Indonesian consulate here has been informed of the case.
ACP Gan said the husband had three previous convictions for drug and criminal offences.
Police also seized a car belonging to the man as well as an iron, a belt, a comforter and a bedsheet from the apartment. The couple has four children aged five to 15.
